If you don’t follow what is natural for you, its not intellectual, because as human beings we are intertwined with physical nature like other creatures and at the same time we are blessed with God like spirituality. Having the ability to bring spirituality in the physical form makes human beings to stand in a class of their own. Doing good things comes natural to the human beings because of the spiritual entity residing within. The trouble is the mortality as an individual so having the knowledge of being temporary throws one off balance. Some of us can find the wisdom and still find happiness and contentment regardless of mortality yet others just ignore it all and start to live as a permanent being. When the time comes to go or as the age creeps up the anxiety sets in. If you learn to get old before you get old, you would be able to accumulate happiness regardless of mortality. Urges from both sides may pull but there is enough wisdom provided that one can create balance.
If you only follow intellect, you may end up losing more than you should as a mortal. It will be a bitter sweet pill to swallow if you follow todays trends, friends or the cause you choose, knowing that you may have a limited time to make a choice or live.
Today’s trends of sexual abuse stories are filling the news slots, a bad apple is a bad apple regardless of the gender, so it should be about the human rights issues. When one speaks about aggressive males and the desire to tame down their actions can lead to or compel the western cultures to rethink the old eastern ways of arranged marriage system. I am no fan of one or the other. I go along with the changing times. I look at the changes and embrace them as human evolution. I view them as a good thing rather than sticking to the past. Religious values with loads of prejudice and discrimination related problems are in the past.
If a male feels he must suppress how he has acted in the past and this is not his nature, what role does he take? Would the female have to become the aggressor and approach the males to carry out the act we all are compelled to follow by our nature role?
The population will adopt to the changes. We have been evolving from the beginning of time. As a cave man or when people lived in the bush a strong alpha male have had a harem of females yet the beta would go without. One male and one female came along as we became aware of our intellectual side and started to think that creating a family is good for the community. It has always been accepted and considered a civilized way of living in all over the world. Some but not all Religions have made some concessions to allow the males to have more than one female, and no I am not talking about any organized religion exclusively. A Christian religious sect leader is in jail right now for having multiple wives and hundreds of children. We have been and will always be changing while we experiment with the evolution of our species. The question is, is it the right thing to do? What are the side effects of these social experiments and who is going to pay the price?
I am always for spirituality and evolution but when it comes to equal human rights I am one hundred percent in favour of it regardless of the price one has to pay.
When you look at the make up of the human being, there is a body and it is run by the brain. Who or what is running the brain? I state that “You” who is running both the body and the brain. Since the brain is full of data installed by the society we have chosen to belong to, our social group automatically expects it to run according to the rules of the society. This third entity is not male or female. This person runs the brain body and everything in between. It makes the decisions to choose and assume an identity according to the installed knowledge. Since male and female is a data, not the being itself, the identity is largely dependent on the stereo type by the group were have chosen to follow in our society. Some confusion often comes to the weaker individuals who depend on the society to make the rules they must follow. This entity is the chief executive officer of his/her life, whom has a name of male, female or in today’s world which may include some gender neutral name. If you want some proof of the third entity, just ask a stroke suffer or extremely old person. He/she can tell you all about the experiences of life living with all three. When the coordination between brain and body is not equally functioning, the individual entity has to create balance in order to be happy. If this does not happen ones life becomes difficult and it can increasingly become very unhappy.
If you happen to be a human being but labeled as male or female, it is not because of the entity residing inside of you. It is because of the body developed by the genetics and related hormones we all possess in our human body. These hormones dictate or compel the individual to follow certain natural inclinations.It has been said that males are aggressive and are the pursuers and females like to be pursued. If you change the natural order as perceived in the where males are the aggressive ones and females like to be pursued, it could cause some inner turmoil in the individual regardless of the gender.
I personally feel that I can see the side effects in the males that return from fighting in wars. They may return to their family with mental health issues. These stress issues were caused by the war but they can affect anxiety and depression for the females of the most cultures.
If you are a beta male or a female and if you are expected to drive your car of life, you would need some alpha help if not your stress levels are going to rise. Being a social creature that human beings are, we live together. If we are forced to follow the trends of society we can end up facing the side effects that comes with living as society expects to live. These side effects are not only harmful to the individual, they are costly to the group we have chosen to follow in our society. We as societies, should care about these issues just as much as an individual should. We need to understand and be proactive to providing positive solutions for our chosen group.
These are the interesting times for me. I would like to see what kind of future are we facing with the rift in the genders.
Abstinent pushed by the religions have not brought something better to social settings, never mind the general population. It has been reported and confirmed that some ordained priests abused boys and attempted to hide their spiritual crimes in the religious group that they chose to be a part of in their chosen society. With time these changes will have an affect on society with many side effects to follow, only time will tell who pays the price for the changes. In today’s case I see both sexes are already paying the price. They are paying the price by suppressing nature in favour to evolving time. We need to understand the nature that we call, our nature, as well as how we evolve. A mortal nature puts a lot of responsibilities on the individual’s shoulders. Males or female are things living a temporary life as a chief executive officer of a mortal life.
Human desires are related to powerful nature. As a male or female we all are human beings first and being a human being we are social creatures and as a mortal creature going against the nature is not wise. Adopting social changes has always been an optional thing for the individual, so it is highly individual. This is why we still have religious people following the old rules of religions. Some present day governments try to stay with evolving social needs. Sometimes when they clash but the equal human rights win in the courts of the law because of the religious freedom. Since religious freedom is connected to the equal human rights, it can be difficult for the governments to navigate around and about these issues. The change is still in the air and I see there is a lot more attention on the sexual abuse these days, but the trend against the religious people whom became abusers seems to have lost its punch as time has passed. Would this trend pass or it is here to stay? If it is here to stay it will bring the side effects both sexes will pay. Lack of trust amongst genders can not be a good thing for the society.
Unlike individual society, as an entity carries on living well beyond the individual’s living days, the individual human rights have to be respected. If you force your rules on a mortal being, in the end of the day they will choose to follow or break the rules. When individuals have nothing to lose, deviance and disobedience may result. This is one of the the reasons why we don’t have crime-free societies, regardless of the level of freedom. If you blindly follow the social trends you individually may have to pay the price. Remember you are the chief executive officer or the one in charge of your life so the responsibilities of a mortal life are yours.
Eastern cultures have family settings to set the young couples up to get married. They don’t have to go out to look for the mate, but western culture down grades it both individually and socially. My question would be that which one is right for the people as an individual and collectively? In the western society you go out to find yourself a mate, so in the process you may no be successful in meeting the person you would like to have as a mate.Would you rather have your family pick your mate for you? What does it mean to you? What if everyone out there is somewhat emotionally injured including yourself? Would you play with the full deck of cards, and if no one is playing with full deck of cards who is honest and trust worthy about everything? Is it healthy? You may think I would say its not healthy but I am an eternal optimist so I take it as a life story unfolds. We have to go through it, if you are born in this era or a select culture, you have to make your decisions according to the social trends. I would always remind you to keep your mortality in front of you as a fact. Social trends, friends and the causes should not have the power to ruin your mortal life experience.