Insecurity, from a gang to the religion.

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Our insecurities push us to join or form our groups, whether it be a large family who sticks together, a gang, a community, a nation or a religion they all come in to play a security related political role in one’s life.  Some of us look at our skin color and acknowledge our connection, or meet in the worship places to join the like minded belief systems or religions, and some of us find refuge in the nationalism yet it should be sought into our personal skin or in the humanity as a whole.

However, when you look for the causes of insecurities, it is the knowledge of mortality and our fear-related politics of control. Logically for a mortal there is no security and control, if we had that, we would love to live forever control the loss of love. Since the understanding of mortality comes as we grow older and wiser, we need to learn to live a life where we can remove fear and control so we can achieve happiness and contentment. With our logical thinking as adults we should be able to live a temporary life accumulating happiness instead of stress. With the knowledge coming from our parents and belonging groups we put so much efforts in a living as if it is permanent. With a whole lot of regrets and what ifs our lives are spent on the horizon and our days accumulate our life as if it is full of discontentment and unhappiness. As an individual we should find our standing by becoming a CEO to understand our personal politics of living. Every CEO is  able to deal with two types of politics –individual and of the group. It is a game everybody has to play. Today, we have climbed higher on the ladder of evolution, but it is mostly in technology and intellectual areas, our balance is out individually, some of us really believe and some of us don’t believe, yet it is neither, it is the balance of both to make your life better and live able with inner and external peace.  

We are all same. We breathe, eat, bleed, breed, live and die the same way we get hurt, feel pain, anger, and seek revenge. The only difference is education and strength, both of these are related with the common sense and understanding of sense of belonging.

Today progressively we are becoming moderates, we feel and take pride in becoming spiritual rather than religious. It was unheard of few hundred years ago. Regardless of the over whelming majority of the moderates, why are we becoming extremists? Personal insecurities can drive a man to seek security of a belonging group to even commit spiritual crimes. It is the individual weakness, and it needs fixing at the individual level. We all have to understand the power of love loss at individual level so we can respect the pain felt by the others.

Interestingly by just looking around you will find the groups seeking group securities, from language police to turbans and beards to religious symbols and their thriving business of separation. All these steps people take to protect the identity of the belonging groups point towards group insecurities. To protect our identities, we go to the length that we go to wars and kill each other for unseen and hypothetic scenarios. 

If you look at the real security it is in belonging to the humanity as a whole, you can see we are coming together for global security against the global warming, we have internet and space station and  the biggest of all the spirituality. just imagine if there are no wars and all nations help each other to eradicate poverty and disease, the potential I have seen in the Ebola crises, how people got together. That is what needed for our coming generations and we need to look at our divisive sense of belonging as a real threat to our future generations.  

Free will has the power to get us whatever we want but just desires are not enough for a happy life. We are connected. Despite having separate bodies, sure we get comfort and security in material things but trust and love connects us all at the spiritual level, just look at us in coming together in the situations of natural disasters even religions minimize their differences and help the people of the opposing religions.

Now what I suggest to a scientist, is to look at him/herself and understand God because our knowledge is not complete and yes even you are a scientist you learn new things almost everyday. How does the body function? How emotional health and circumstances of life affect health? How powerful is the placebo effect and why and how does it help us? There are several unknowns are out there, so making up your mind that God does not exist with a limited knowledge is nothing but ignorance. Thus no one should or cannot put others  down who believe in God. One can only do that when he/she knows everything there is to know but until then, everybody should keep their passionate nature in check.

And to religious fanatics, my suggestion is the same as above.

Knowledge is an evolutionary process and it cannot be bound in the books because our facts change all the time. One can believe whatever he/she wants to and can hope that everybody else believes it too, but what happens when our facts change? The biggest problem is for the ordinary individual, because a confusing and conflicting scientific and religious knowledge can create inner havoc. Collectively, well we change gradually and accept the changes, just like abortions, racial equality, gender or sexual equality and equal human rights. These  facts of our life have been and are being discovered not only by believers but by non-believers as well. Thus we all contribute to the well-being of humanity in reaching to its potential one mile stone at a time. No one nation, religion or race can take all the credit or blame for humanity’s advances or draw backs because it is all coming from the individual, regardless or where he/she is from or belong to. 

A CEO is not an extension of any organization or any one particular religion he/she runs the show and calls the shots, race, religion or nation he/she is an independent spiritual entity connected directly to God. He/she respect others as spiritual beings and respect the differences. Killing each other hurts humanity as a whole or I should dare say and God.

Always think: Would God exist if there were no humans? The ideology of God’s existence has never been proven as a fact regardless of our extreme scientific knowledge because we have been looking for God out side of us. Whether God exists or not, it would not matter if we all disappear. I believe, since God lives through us and our progress is God’s progress. Those who do not believe in God are also doing God’s work regardless of their belief system. If they have some kind of job and any and all jobs are related to serving humanity is spiritual work regardless of being paid. If you fulfill someone’s need you are serving.

Moreover, since God’s worth depends on the human’s existence, even God serves humanity. We need God and God needs us in order to evolve to reach our potential. Imagine God sitting in the jungle with trillions and trillions of dollars worth power no one needs or can appreciate. Since we each have a fiver we love to have more than that, so we seek help from God(Read Five bucks).

What is the potential? We can only find out when we get there. Until then we should learn and understand about our egotistic behaviors because we have been killing each other regardless of our incomplete knowledge.

When you look into the mirror, you see more than just a body with the brain, if you seek, just look through the eyes and talk to the individual who runs the brain and the body simultaneously, only then, you will meet or see the individual inside the body. If you are unhappy for whatever reason, you personally and individually are a victim of the sense of belonging related control and insecurity and only you can help yourself by becoming a CWO.

Priest, mullah, rabbi, psychologist, psychiatrist or counselor cannot go into your pit or I should say deep in the core. He/she can only provide a ‘Band Aid-like’ solution. Only you can look and reach deep inside of you and accept your deficiencies and mortality, which can allow you to take care of your insecurities.

Become a CEO, who understands life beyond the surface living, learn to know its potential, limitations and the realities of the mortality, and yes it is easier said than done. In today’s world, everybody who is trying to control is living like an immortal. Preaching of mortality has always been ignored by the societies and ego-related knowledge inspires everyone because if you work like a hamster on the wheel in a cage you are more valuable to the society. Religions talk about the mortality but they take it and use it as a tool of fear to control the populations, which is even worse because they want you to give your money to them, just look around the world the majestic buildings of the religions. They preach you to live for the after life, live frugally and don’t enjoy the blessings of God. Either way religions and even non religious societies use politics of fear to keep everyone in control. By no means I am against all the rules, I believe in the balance created by the individual for his/her life. Society and the belief system should be there to benefit the individual in the living years because he/she reciprocates while he/she is alive. No one really knows about the after life, I am for this life to be lived in reciprocation. I pray to God so I can be a help for the humanity and God, I like to live a practical praying life.  

If you like to live like an immortal entity, you will sacrifice your happiness and contentment for later and that later may never come for you and it will be just for you as an individual because eventually you will have to face the mortality. Losing control and feeling insecure deep into the core is one of the main cause of mental health issues so understanding mortality can help you add some fearless living days thus happiness in life.

At the end of the day, not afterlife but your presently living life matters the most. If you have always put others, or material things before what makes you happy, or because of them you disrespected yourself, you will blame yourself for living your life with deficiencies. That is the reason why God created man as a CEO and gave him the responsibility to live life with a choice, so ask yourself are you a CEO of your life or are you  an extension of the race, nation or an ideology?

Not long ago, humans were in the food chain of animals. Today, man has claimed the top spot by his/her intellect, which is no match for other creatures.

Intellect also brings God into the picture and we all have certain images of God, as someone who can do anything and everything which is not possible with our fivers. We feel weak and vulnerable, especially when it comes to natural disasters. We pray for safety and fear the most from the pain of the love loss and hope that God will protect us. Our ancestors have told us that God creates natural disasters to keep us in line, so the image of God has been distorted as some monstrous revenge seeking machine.

God is as vulnerable as us as a humanity, but always there to help, God’s help is to make the man think and reach his/her potential which makes us all benefit. If we evolve we help ourselves just like the child starts to fly solo and parents can be proud, God is not only the proud one we as contributing individual can be proud of our achievements as well.  

We have been and still pray to God to keep us safe from the things we don’t have control over. After understanding the complexities of natural disasters, we can now prepare and help ourselves from death and destruction at least some what but the biggest thing is that today we don’t blame God about all the bad things happening in our life.

Building bridges, space travel, discoveries in medical science and using sun and wind for energy are Godly acts. God is living through us. Therefore, we should not underestimate our importance. The natural disasters and all the difficulties of human individual and humanity have us dig deeper inside to push for more knowledge and evolve towards our potential. If it was up to the religious people we would still be throwing virgins over the cliff because they believed God was angered by their actions. 

We have a strong connection with each other yet we are also individuals. Therefore, there is a constant tug of war—the individual is being pulled by the sense of belonging and the sense of freedom simultaneously from with in. What should dominate? The individual or the society? This question cannot be clearly answered because our circumstances change. Higher awareness should have helped us live this life with better understanding but it is  causing us more grief. We have bigger, better and more accurate guns to kill each other. Society is losing control on the individual and the individual is feeling exhausted by inner conflicts of day-to-day living. If one is always trying to suppress insecurities and is at war from with in, he/she is living against the nature, we are at a point that we need to zigzag between our nature and intellect but we just keep picking and choosing one or the other. 

Our knowledge of the future should put some responsibilities on our shoulders for our coming generations, but we keep giving them the same old animosity and us verses them politics of sense of belonging. We have to have an education system based on solid, logical knowledge. Children need to be told about facts as soon as they are able to understand them.

Our education system and parenting pumps up children, not only about the differences, we are keep telling them that they can be whatever they want to be. They are not being prepared for, to face the realities of life like mortality and being part of humanity as a whole. Everyone is an individual and learns differently some can analyze and question, some just follow the knowledge coming from the authority figure. Pumped up with hormones and social education of control, the children can become unhappy when things do not go their way. Instead of blaming them, we should start to look seriously at the side effects of our education system. Personally I believe these side effects can create anxiety and depression which is growing as the children grow up to face the real life.

The children have to learn the hard way since loss of control can be a big jolt especially when your parents and society you belong to is always giving you the messages of control.

If a person is torn from inside, he/she can create a balance with free will but it will take a wisdom of the CEO, you just can’t think that far if you are just an extension of an ideology. A CEO knows about the facts of life, like influences and the power of traditions, customs and religious beliefs and the biggest of all the personal mortality.

If you are torn and you feel the power of sense of belonging, search inside. If you are connected to God as a Muslim, Jew or Christian it is not good enough because you must feel the direct connection which is above and beyond a group of people, and yes it is to the true source.

I am going to put a little story here, it is a tale of the stone on the slant beach, who is surrounded by the just as big stones as itself. The one on the top is its family, the bottom belong to the job the right one is its friends and then the government and religion and so on. Being surrounded that stone does not even has to know its weight because it feels secure regardless of the sand slipping or coming back with the waves. It does not even has to think about the security but when a surrounding stones start to slip the whole story changes. Just like the stone the insecure individual puts up with a whole lot of  political price, they would go to the length to commit spiritual crimes for the belonging groups or I should say stones and carry on with a damaged soul inside, on the name of their belonging group. It is just because they don’t know their own individual weight, they don’t even know, they are the natural born CEOs. The sand of life comes and goes with the waves but if you have the solid belief system of direct connection with the source you would believe that you are going to serve the purpose until you are needed so you can’t just live life in fear and control.    

If you have faith in your own weight you would not be worried and you would not have to put up with the political pressure to do some thing which goes against your personal ethic. Since survival and death is not in your control because you breath the oxygen which you can’t live without, and you absolutely have no control over it yet you keep taking the credit for your actions and achievements.

You don’t even give a thought how things are working, because you are not taught to appreciate the bigger picture. The sky is not falling, and then when the oxygen goes inside of you it enters to a whole new and different universe where everything has to work perfectly to keep you alive and yet you think it is all about you, you are the one who is doing everything. Just because it is happening does not mean it is you  and only you doing it, or it is not important to think that way. Personally I believe it is important to know and believe that you alone just can’t light up a light bulb you need the two wires to get the job done. If you know and believe that you are a crucial  part of lighting up the bulb you would have some self respect as well thus you would not feel that you are insignificant, just like your religions and societies have you believed.    

If two families have a feud, it can go on for generations. However, we have a bigger family, which goes beyond nations and religions. If you put your sense belonging into perspective, you can see humanity is divided everywhere. From religions to nations and gangs to families, our insecurities draw us together in groups regardless of the right or wrong knowledge. Our personal insecurities are the reason why we don’t question the knowledge of our belonging groups.

To me, the real solution for insecurity is to belong to spirituality and God. Groups and religions are manmade security net works, but spirituality is a built in natural human phenomenon. It can help an individual to surrender fear and start a brave living.

We have abilities and limitations, which make us want to evolve even as we stay religious. As long as we have aspirations, desires and insecurities, we will always believe in God. We put God in an ideal position from where God can prevent a natural disaster, fulfill an impossible dream or be the most important security provider. 

What if God too is evolving with us? Natural disasters can be predicted and technology can save lives. However, can we function without God’s help?

I believe God and man are intertwined and our knowledge is shared. God being spiritual and man being physical make things happen. Both have to shoulder the responsibility and evolve. Some of us would love to take the credit for evolution, but I believe that if a man does not even have control on his next breath, how it can be possible for him to claim the credit for all civilization and evolution? It is not wrong that religions have helped in evolution but they may have played a role to slow down the process of evolution to match the speed which is just right for the individual to absorb and adopt the knowledge. 

I believe God is in humanity and that is the reason human beings lean towards spirituality. The potential is there and it shows whenever we get hit by the natural disaster we see humanity gets its act together and puts the politics aside, but the politics takes over as the time passes.

There is no room for collateral damage and there should be no marking of territories like savage animals. There should be a universal justice system for the individual. We have the potential to live together regardless of our differences, just look at the melting pot societies of the world. I know it is far from the realities of life but as an idealist I believe we should not belong exclusively to just nations and religions. We should belong to humanity as a whole.

We have to accept that we have acted like savages. It is time to step to the next level of evolution, where we all forgive each other for the atrocities of our ancestors. It is time for the individual to take charge and not to act under a group’s sense of belonging. If you seek security, seek in the real source. That real source starts with in you and the whole humanity belongs to it.

If you are told that you cannot reach God without religious leaders, pray directly to God. If you want to assess your value, look at yourself logically. You are an independent entity and you have free will for a reason, if you start to seek that reason, not only it will bless you with some self respect, it will set you free of all the spiritual deficiencies you carry because of your ancestral knowledge.  

Every community, nation and religion celebrates and promotes its history, customs, dressing, and exhibitions. Nobody wants to lose his or her connections to the past. Yet it’s scientifically and genetically proven that we are all alike, and the politicians of our belonging groups do not want to admit it.

When we claim that we are better than others are, we create divisions and prejudice. As Dr. Wayne Dyer said there are four levels first of all you learn to own, this is my mom, my dad, my toy my best friend, my school etc etc. Then you learn to claim that everything yours is better than others. Then you ask what’s in it for me in everything, and finally you ask what can I do for you. 

One of the fundamental flaw of our ancestral education is that mine is better than yours. Since it is in level two, where everybody says mine is better than you it has been keeping us from graduating to the next level of evolution. It is time for the individual to look at this education as a CEO and cross the boundaries. The foundation of our education should be on level four, where every one can say: “What I can do for you?” ultimately all religions teach this but they can’t come out of their pigeon holes of level two because of the politics of sense of belonging. If they are totally spiritual they will not have the claims of that they are the only way to God, because God is already there for the individual he/she does not have to go anywhere to reach God.

Our group politics will not allow us to stray from loyalties. Conservative leaders and the general population consider evolution is rebellious behavior. Politicians of all groups, always have been fighting against progress, yet supporting it when it fits for their political agendas.

However, we should keep our arms open and embrace the whole humanity instead of sticking to group politics. Spirituality connects the individual to humanity and to God and takes the person beyond religious boundaries just like the internet no nation or religion can put walls against the spread of the new knowledge.

 Human societies always have been and have to have a controlling system. Politics of control always has been tricky. Religions try to control general population by fear based politics and they are still adamant about it. With awareness we are learning that fear based control is no control at all. It is suppression which can have psychological effects on the individual and the society he belongs to. From personal relationships to general interaction of the individual are effected, the motivation of everyday living would be lower because of the forced expectations. As soon as the fear is gone the individual loses the motivation to excel.

Religions have been using fear based politics to control and conform, but as the individual evolves things have been changing. We are in a journey of evolution and the religions have been playing their part, some good and some bad. With free will it’s up to the individual to choose but the strength of sense of belonging trumps even the most logical way of thinking.

Group politics of the religion or I should call the political arm of the religion would always try to control and conform for political purpose instead of teaching spirituality, because if the individual thinks about himself as a part of God or bigger picture, he would cross the lines created by the belonging groups thus group would lose control on the individual which can be deadly for the group.

For instance you will become tolerant and lose the militant ideology, you will accept all people as part of God as yourself thus become forgiving and learn to live with others in peace and harmony. If people learn to live in harmony, what would happen to those who benefit from the conflicts? They would not want to lose their powers thus they would use God for the political reasons. They would turn and twist to promote and sing the songs of the sense of belonging and glorify the ancestral knowledge thus work hard against the sense of individual freedom.

Communism and socialism have their own methods to control the individual, they don’t use God but they use people and sense of belonging. Sense of belonging will divide people regardless of the sense of freedom. There is a problem in authoritarian countries and it is because of the internet exposing everything to the individual, so everybody wants freedom, but every system of governing needs a system to keep the law and order.

Whatever was needed to control the society, man puts that into a constitution or the religion as politics, whether it was alcohol, gambling or sex, it was prohibited in the name of God. In reality God has nothing to do with it, because we were granted the free will. Its human being’s responsibility to use these things or not. If you consider they are bad with your knowledge you don’t have to use them but if you are told by God not to use them, it’s questionable. Drinking Gambling and Sex can have the potential of addiction so our understanding comes from our knowledge. You can’t just involve God in these individual problems. Just like we know the storms and earthquakes better with our scientific knowledge, our psychological understanding can show us that we have ethics and morals based on social issues and we can change with time. If you relate these issues with God people will have stubborn connections with the issues so they can’t change their position even if they want to because they really believe it came from God. I personally don’t drink because it takes the inhibitions away and I believe inhibitions are the foundation or our civilization. If you drink and don’t lose your inhibitions it is a social drink, but if you drink to get drunk and commit some crime you can’t defend your drinking which makes you responsible for your actions. Drinking is fine until you drive and kill someone, which makes you rob some one of love and that I believe is a spiritual crime. 

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