Saw a documentary on the monkeys, two alpha males duke it out by a big fight. One of them won and the other ran away. After nursing their wounds life went back to normal as usual. Winner got the status of the top dog and the loser hung around alone for a while then he accepted the supremacy of the winner. Assumed a submissive role and at time he groomed the winner. As a creature that kind of understanding is crucial to survive in the wild. Yes there is a price to pay.
As human beings we don’t only have similar situations, whether one is alpha or beta we have created an unseen but real big brother who dictates that how should we live within the law of the land. Our problem is just like the monkeys we live in the groups and groups have their own governing systems, some time with vast differences. With animal instinct we try to dominate each other thus get into the conflicts. Our wars last decades or centuries and we have now weapons of mass destruction. Not a rosy picture, because we still have that emotionally charged behaviors and not only individually.
For our local internal conflicts or social peace we have to have the justice system and the law enforcement with the jails. The usefulness of the big brother keeps us from killing each other but everyday problems can’t be solved. If we all can develop our personal ethics and morality related with the individual spirituality we can personally regulate our selves. This individual awareness of the spirituality is the only and best way to reduce the crimes, practically you can’t have a police man for every individual so the need of this education is a must in all societies. This kind of education can help us as a group as well as it can make us aware that other human groups are human too, thus we are all one organism, humanity or an entity. That is if you believe that God lives through us and we all are God’s physical expression.
All the social ills, wars and prejudice related crimes are related to our free will. We can choose to become aware of individual fiver or just follow the trends, friends, society, race, gender, nation or the religions.
We as human beings at times would rather suffer, become depress even commit suicide if we can’t win in the rat race of life. The reason behind this behavior is that individually our sense of belonging is over powering and we can’t balance or counter it with the sense of freedom or use our fiver of common sense. Yes that old sense of belonging. This intellectual phenomenon undermines our nature and compels us to live in isolation even we are still in a concrete jungle.
It is all about the flexibility, adaptation and the wisdom or understanding of mortality. Why even a so called lower form of life out wits human beings? especially when it comes to us being a social creature as well just like the monkeys.
Where else do we suffer because of our intellect, it is a matter of how do we live.
We have to live a life which zigzags through the intellect and nature equally. If you try to live in extreme, either way its you loss as an individual.
Imagine yourself with a knowledge which does not accept the boundaries and you live in a conservative community. For sure you would be a minority and would run the risk of being shunned just because of your views of life, even if you are right. The prejudice always keep the populations at lower level of knowledge. It means you could be penalized just by having a higher level of knowledge. Our history shows that sometimes the brilliant people even were killed because of their knowledge was not understood by the general population. If you look deeply most religions and isms have had hard time in the beginning, yet they gave harder time to the newer knowledge.
It is all about the politics of power when you get in power you supress all kind of opposition, especially when the general population becomes educated it can threaten the power shift. Just like today, all the chaos in the world is related with the shift in the education by the internet. The conservatives would suppress the uprisings but the internet and modern technology is exposing everything to the whole humanity. I know I am an idealist and personally I think no one should be on the wrong side of the evolution. It is ingrained in the human beings because of the God. Religions unsuccessfully put the boundaries around us to keep us contained in the jars (read the seeds in the jar).
Some how human nature plays a role as well, we naturally don’t like the changes. Our ego (which is one of the child of sense of belonging) gets involved it blinds us from the importance of the new knowledge or even evolution. I believe it involves pride and honor of being right and smart as well ( the other children of sense of belonging). All three get involved especially if the changes are proving old theories wrong.
If you are proven wrong that means your ancestors were wrong as well. Especially when it comes to religions we even fight the amendments needed to function in the changing world. So we naturally resist the changes and would rather take extreme steps to fight changes. Our wars and hatred related behaviors are based on this fundamentalism which exists in all human societies. If they have strong indications of them being prejudice and against the human rights, that makes all of them wrong whether it be a conservative group, nations religions, isms or democratic systems.
We have to out grow these boundaries and causes of extremes. We have to separate, instead of mixing religions and personal feelings or losses, like revenge and the disputes of lands. If you can successfully do that, you will find most of our conflicts are expanded by the politics of getting more people involved. If there are more people involved with their fiver the more power to that group. That is the reason why we all are victims of our politicians so it is essential to self educate before chipping in with your fiver. This chipping in knowledge has been around for millions of years but never really understood by the people because it is for the whole humanity not for your immediate groups.
The problem is in the following of a group is that if you take the strength and security from a gang or community, you have to give back and follow the rules. Those rules could be in the conflict with one’s personal ethics or individuality.
Individuals lose strength when the politicians give fancy political speeches to gain group strength.That is why its crucial for the individual to have education to make personal decisions or bring the right leaders to lead. This makes individual stronger but the other problem would rise because, if you take that individual strength to extreme it can have the negative effects as well. It can be like a rust to the social fabric, because in the community you have to band together. Having too many opinions can cause the community to fall apart, the examples are all over the world from religious sects to dividing nations. I have seen several mosques in one neighbourhood and when I moved to Canada I saw the same thing but it was churches. This is not unique in the world we have communities divided like Ireland, Palestine and Kashmir these conflicts are still on going but without the resolutions.
This is a dilemma for the so called perfect solution to human problems, yes our modern democracy is not immune to it either because, you can see politicians physically fighting inside the legislatures. So what to do and how to deal with it, is the question?
Whether to strengthen the individual or the state? Either extreme is not acceptable for the humanity because you can’t live being torn apart from the inside, especially if you love freedom. You can’t live alone, and if you can’t live alone you have to pay the price to mold your self with the rules.
Freedom is natural for the human being as well, but so is the desire to live in the community, thus we all need individual flexibility. just like those alpha monkeys we all need the balance. Not only to survive but to be useful to the belonging community and to serve the humanity in general.
Regardless of gender as human beings we all have to live this life as a mortal. If you look at the modern day life of the single people, there is a lot of pain just because of the social trends and sense of belonging. For instance you live on average around eighty years. First twelve to fifteen are usually under the shelter of your parents. Say at eighteen you get a boy friend or girl friend, have a good relationship for a year or two followed by the break up. You go through a dry period of three to five years depending upon the hurt and the personality because, some people never recover from the hurt.
If you keep going at that rate you can end up spending a lot of time in pain and suffering just because of that you are not looking at your life as a CEO. Just look at it, is it a good deal for you personally as a mortal. You have to assess your personal life because it is you who is in charge of your life.
Always remember it is your personal business and happiness is the cash, if you keep losing that cash you need to make some major changes in you thinking. Other people have a say but not to the point that you spend all your cash and live a bankrupt life.
If you keep looking for the approval of the other people including your friends or trends of society you may accumulate some regrets so the sooner you take charge the better, become a CEO and understand what is at steak. If you keep dumping every boy or girl friend that means you are always looking for the perfect one to come and chances are you are going to live your life in deprivation.
Logically you are living your life on the horizon which may not become a reality and your time would be up. Is it good to gamble with your happiness, it is a million happiness dollar question? and you have to ask yourself why? The founder of the woman’s liberation got married late in her sixties, may be finally she realized the personal life is just as important as a cause you take on.
If you were born ten thousands years ago, would you be living in the same mentality or you can look what is coming ten thousands years later, would you do the same thing with your life. Society has its trends they come and go but you lose very precious time which is not going to come back so place the society in a department but not as a whole business, you have to become a CEO of your life. If you are unhappy you have to look at the causes of that unhappiness. Don’t let the trends, friends or even your sense of belonging rob or ruined your life. It is your time and you have a lot more say than you think.