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Picture your self in the produce section in the super market and you are picking out some fruit to buy, intentionally you are not going to buy the bruised fruits, but when it comes to our life, its just like the Forest Gump said you never know what you are going to get. Now when you got what is yours to deal with, you have to put things in perspectives.
I believe we all have been given this life as a package, so we as an individual are the real owner of this package thus are able to call the shots during our life time on this earth regardless of the influences. If you are raised as an extension of a family, community, race, nation or an ideology, my question to you is, where, when, why and how do you use your free will? If you are lead to believe that you don’t have one my suggestion to you is to look a little deeper inside of you to find your real value. Do you really, and all the time let others call the shots for you? If you do, then what is the real purpose of your life? Are you unhappy? Do you really know the dead dog of your(Read the Dead dog) unhappiness? How much say do you think you have in your life?
Do you know there is an order of nature in all species including human beings, do you know if you are an alpha or beta? What happens if an alpha male lands in a relationship with an alpha female and then they have alpha kids? What happens to alpha people in the oppressive societies? If you are unhappy and can’t figure out what is wrong? In relationships with your loved ones including kids life can be chaotic if everyone tries to dominate each other. Its cute if your kid dominates you and you let it happen or a girlfriend calls the shots and you put up a front as a beta just because the relationship is new, can you keep up with that front for the rest of your life or you blow up when the dominating nature is pushed to the limits and you try to re-establish your dominance without any success. Personally I believe most western societies have been full of the alpha gene pool because most alpha people leave their countries for a better life and end up in more liberated societies, thus there is a big problem in the area of acceptable adjustments. ( Read acceptable adjustments).
Nature is the cause and it provides solutions as well but we have to look in that direction to find solutions. If our nature comes to haunt us and our family life, we have to, not only at the individual level but as a society has to understand our nature. Societies have to learn how to accommodate and comply with our nature instead of suppressing it by force.
Education of our ability to be flexible is the answer, you can’t just suppress or oppress the nature because it can’t be done. Human is the creature of two sides, very strong nature and intellect simultaneously, you just can’t pick one over the other you have to zigzag through both in order to live a happy mortal life.
If you are an alpha male you need a beta female to have a good working relationship, same goes for the alpha female but the problem is that naturally alpha female are attracted to the alpha males. In the bush it may workout but in today’s society, where following nature has been discouraged and there is no solution provided. People have to make there own acceptable adjustments to have the successful relationships other wise there is a lot of chaos in our relationship departments.
Imagine being stuck in an oppressive society for your whole life as an alpha male or female, we have been surviving through kingdoms, isms and dictatorships but thanks to the ability to be flexible enough to make acceptable adjustments. We are evolving regardless of the speed.
It is the end of the 2015 and its the first time females voting and running for the election in Saudi Arabia, if you look at it, it is fortunate and unfortunate at the same time. I just got a post with good timing, someone posted on the Facebook that until 1927 Canadian women were not considered as a person, Colombian women voted for the first time in 1957, New Zealand 1893, This was a surprize for me that Sweden partial vote was in 1771, Finland 1906, France 1944 Greece 1952, Switzerland 1971 and another shock is that the Vatican city is the only country in the world where women still can not vote. The evolution is going on but it has been fought tooth and nails by the ultra conservatives regardless of the knowledge that it is an injustice to treat a human being lesser that yourself. I strongly stand against the injustice and am totally for the human individual rights. Our identity is a human being, not a male, female, homosexual, heterosexual, Muslim, Christian, Black, White, Pakistani or Canadian. So Donald trump should look around and see the whole world has changed, these days any and all political parties have to come into the middle to win elections otherwise the individual’s view can take the whole party down.
Personally I think the entity residing in each and everyone of us is not a male or female. Ever wonder why do you think we as males have nipples? The answer is that the physical changes come with the hormones as the fetus grows, the start is the same, the distinctions are all about the abilities, disabilities and the potential. For instance if a female firefighter has to pull her 250lbs partner from the burning fire, she should have the ability to do so. It should be a job qualifying demand, thus there should be the same physical test for males and females. If a male can’t pull or carry the partner he should not be qualified for that particular job as well. The job description should require the same for male and female because these days we have females lifting more weights then males. Anybody who pursue certain lifestyle and achieve that kind of strength, is all because of the pursuit. Each and everyone of us has that built in potential as an entity, male or female has been and is labeled by the societies. If the society is suppressing the potential because of its customs, traditions, religious beliefs or sense of belonging related ego, pride and honor, this suppression has the potential to work against God’s will and yes that will is for us to pursue our potential. Does that mean that I believe all religions whom block the individual from pursuing his/her potential are wrong and are not following God’s will I will say a strong yes.
God created human individual with the potential to evolve, the proof is in the pudding just look around the suppressing societies are far behind then the societies whom encourage the whole population to evolve. If you keep one half of the population to depend on the other half it slows the progress and evolution.
Believing in the stereo typing can limit the individual from reaching his/her potential, so as an individual it is very important to seek the status of a CEO regardless of your gender. Being a CEO you are the one who is responsible for not only standing up for yourself but also to reach your potential so you can reciprocate at higher level what God had meant for you. If you have been suppressed and feel that you can help the humanity more than you are presently able to, then you should seek, pursue and evolve by educating yourself and the people around you. Personal happiness highly depends on the service you provide in your living years, thus it is not only you are doing the service to the others you are benefiting yourself as well. In the end I just have to put this for you to look at your life with an appreciative eye.
Say God gave you this life and I would compare it with a fruit, so we all got a fruit which we should be appreciative of, but if you are not, you have to know the reason why you are not happy or appreciative of your fruit. Say your fruit has a bruise on it, it is a fact that you can’t be aware of the imperfections unless you compare it with the other’s fruits. What if the others hold their fruits in such a way that their bruised side is hidden, so no one can see it, you can only see their fruit as perfect but you have the knowledge of your own fruit that it is not perfect. In particular health, finance and love, these three can change any and all the time during one’s life time. Awareness of your personal bruised fruit is crucial because you can choose to make big problems of your life into small ones by accepting your bruised fruit to cross into the zone of hope and believe all things change in one’s life time. When it is good you appreciate it, and when it is bad you can have good attitude and hope that no matter what it is, it will change.
There is nothing wrong with comparisons if you use that competition for the progress of the humanity, but when that comparison starts to harm you as an individual, it is your responsibility to take charge of your life fix the problem. If you are unhappy, always compare both sides, (read Ladder of horizon) with the people better than you for the inspiration and with the people less fortunate for the appreciation. If you still are unhappy because of the bruised fruit try cutting the bruised part off so you can enjoy it, because in the end of the day you are mortal.
If you always seek perfection sooner or later you will face a whole lot of imperfections and bruises as you age. A temporary life is like visiting a vacation spot. It is your duty to put every effort to enjoy a happy vocation. Our life is just like that, it is a visit, it is not a permanent stay so live accordingly and if you think it is not going to happen to me or I would not let it happen, you need an attitude adjustment if you would not do it, it will happen anyway, no plastic surgery or implant can stop you from aging.